Rape is not the fault of the person who gets raped.
Fault, no. The fault is with the perp not the victim. Just like the fault for theft is with the thief. Not locking your front door while you go to the mailbox does not mean people can just walk off with your stuff. Even if you stop to talk with a neighbor. Theft is theft. Rape is rape.
But I am a little leery of the idea that the victim is always powerless & the perp is always powerful.
None of the above means locking doors isn't smart. None of the above means that going to a frat party and getting drunk is a good idea. Or getting drunk in a bar. noelfigart quoted a conversation from a martial arts class:
Student: "What's your favorite bar fighting technique?" Instructor: "Not going to bars."
I've seen statistics that up to 80% of violent attacks involve some sort of intoxicating or imparing substance. Yes, I drink. I just don't seek out a roomful of intoxicated & potentially violent strangers to do it with. When I lower my ability to enforce boundaries I want to be with people who I trust to back me up, and perferably on my home turf.
And yes, these sort of guidelines apply to both men and women. Men are more likely to be victims of violent assault than women (note that's assault in general, not sexual assault).
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Fault, no. The fault is with the perp not the victim. Just like the fault for theft is with the thief. Not locking your front door while you go to the mailbox does not mean people can just walk off with your stuff. Even if you stop to talk with a neighbor. Theft is theft. Rape is rape.
But I am a little leery of the idea that the victim is always powerless & the perp is always powerful.
None of the above means locking doors isn't smart.
None of the above means that going to a frat party and getting drunk is a good idea.
Or getting drunk in a bar.
And yes, these sort of guidelines apply to both men and women. Men are more likely to be victims of violent assault than women (note that's assault in general, not sexual assault).