The meme doesn't say the victim is powerless; it says that rape doesn't "just happen". It's not an accident; it's not like "maybe you should have driven a bit slower because the roads were a bit icy here and there." A rapist isn't like an ice patch that catches you by surprise.

Actually, I would say that a rape VICTIM isn't like an ice patch that catches you by surprise. A rapist does not accidently rape someone.

Rape is different from theft, though, because no one asks "did you lead him on? Tempt him with the goods? Did you maybe suggest that it'd be okay if he pushed his way into your house and stole your money?"

No? They why didn't the cops take a report of my stolen wallet because "You set it down on the counter, they can just say you abandoned it, why bother?" Why does my car insurance policy state that the company reserves the right to deny a claim for theft if they can prove the car wasn't locked? Why is a man who is mugged in a bad part of town labeled a "dumbass" by his friends and boss? Why did the cops talk a coworker out of filing charges against his 20-year-old son for stealing $2000 because "The kid lives with you, so it's not stealing, really"?

I am NOT saying that theft is as traumatic as rape. But I did think about that analogy before I used it.