Noone really knows how to deal with someone with good self esteem about their appearance who honestly does just want to lose weight for the good of their health.
But see, that's part of my point. I know lots of people who share your beliefs. So many that if I start asking myself who belongs in the community my answer is that there are more of them than me*, and so they belong and I don't.
On the other hand, when I think along the lines of "There are people who support changing the dialogue about fat in my society and who are choosing to lose weight, and there are also people who support support changing the dialogue about fat in my society and who are choosing not to focus on their weight," then I don't feel so isolated.
*My situation is that weight loss might help my physical health, but most actions that lead to weight loss for me seem to harm my mental health, and so far I've decided my mental health matters more.
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But see, that's part of my point. I know lots of people who share your beliefs. So many that if I start asking myself who belongs in the community my answer is that there are more of them than me*, and so they belong and I don't.
On the other hand, when I think along the lines of "There are people who support changing the dialogue about fat in my society and who are choosing to lose weight, and there are also people who support support changing the dialogue about fat in my society and who are choosing not to focus on their weight," then I don't feel so isolated.
*My situation is that weight loss might help my physical health, but most actions that lead to weight loss for me seem to harm my mental health, and so far I've decided my mental health matters more.