i think most people do both, in reality. the pain management course i trained in treats people of both genders, what becomes clear is that everybody suffers, but it is good to learn some ninja skills for dealing with it. the humbling thing is that there is space for people on the course to tell a bit about their pain, and one woman said it was the first time she had described her pain and not had someone jump in with suggestions for how she should get rid of it.