http://graymalkin13.livejournal.com/ ([identity profile] graymalkin13.livejournal.com) wrote in [personal profile] firecat 2012-01-13 12:59 am (UTC)

You can learn that life sucks sometimes, and that you previously had no idea how much pain and inconvenience and indignity it was possible to be in.

I already knew life sucks sometimes. It's true that I learned about levels of pain and indignity I had never before imagined, and I guess I learned that pain and indignity won't kill me. However, I don't think learning that improved my life. Or my outlook, which you know is totally negative anyway. ;-)

Of course, the oncologist has a vested interest in not hearing patients complain about their cancer and the difficulties of the treatments the oncologist puts them on.

Heh -- for sure. It's pretty risky to count a doctor as part of one's support network...

I think there's one other, slightly less damning reason people don't like to hear complaining: They feel like they should be able to do something to make it better, and they can't. The "should be able to do something" is one of society's narratives that's unhelpful.

Yes and yes.

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