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johnpalmer ([personal profile] johnpalmer) wrote in [personal profile] firecat 2013-01-22 11:55 pm (UTC)

When I was young, using "guys" for a mixed crowd seemed a bit like a joke - like, deliberate obtuseness, or deliberate misstatement.

Then, guys seemed like a deliberate short hand, especially because there was no appropriate "guys" for women. There was "gals" but that wasn't like "guys"... I don't know if I heard "gals" as less than "guys" because it was used that way, or if I just assumed that it was due to sexism in the culture. So, now it seems like a perfectly proper shorthand, but I do sometimes hope that it's not misconstrued.

"Dude" is always a guy for me, unless it's being used as an exclamation. Like, if we were playing a game and you played a skillful move that impacted me (or betrayed an earlier agreement we had, in one of those back-stabby kinds of games) then "Dude!" in an aggrieved tone definitely means "you".

But "I met a dude" excludes the possibility that I'm going to mention tits, unless I'm talking about a crossdresser. (Or someone with a medical condition. Or if I just want to talk about tits.)

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