I wish the panel had gone into that kind of language issue a little more carefully, although I very much respect and appreciate what did get talked about. Maybe we should propose a panel on the general issue for next year.

I identify as AFAB nonbinary and prefer gender neutral pronouns although I sometimes use she/her when talking about my past.

I won't go into a restricted space that doesn't explicitly include one of my identity labels. So I'll go in if it includes queer, bi, pan, nonbinary, and/or genderqueer. But not if it only includes lesbian, gay, women, and/or men.

As for trans, I currently find myself reluctant to use the word trans although various people who do use it say that it is an umbrella term, so as a nonbinary person I'm not appropriating if I use it. But if a space were labeled as being for trans people only I wouldn't go in—at least that's how I feel about it today.

Personally I think if you ID as genderqueer it's OK for you to be in the Wiscon trans/genderqueer space.