firecat

My personal guidelines/needs on d/s and m/s:

First off, for me, all the titles require great "trust" and to be practical and work
for more than the "date, time spent face to
face" and to be emotionally and physically healthy, for all parties are earned roles and/or titles.

Dominance/Submission is negotiated choices on
both parts with the Dominant making choices of
style, etc. and the defending of choices of
style together with the submissive ... in
a nutshell "Freedom of Choice."

In a M/S relationship, the Master/Mistress accepts
responsibility for choice (he/she may make the
choice after negotiation or not ... again,
her/his choice). For the slave it means "Freedom
from choice" ... as a slave you would make and
give the authority once to your Master/Mistress.
Often in these days there will be contracts; time
limitations; etc., but not necessarily.

In the past with my long term d/s partner
I included "Waiving my right to say "no."
I did this because there were no specific and/or
clear guidelines and/or boundaries set as my
partner wanted to "Celebrate what "is."
This particular d/s style for both of us
was unfortunately too advanced, too
confusing and painful, both physically and
emotionally.

Lastly, IMHO I believe any relationship that includes
power dynamics (almost all relationships do)
require great personal responsibility, self-awareness,
and mindfulness to grow Trust, Honesty, Personal
Safety, Value and Love ... and that regardless of
whether you're a husband, wife, poly partner of
any variety, master, slave, submissive, dominant,
loving friend, etc. we all yearn to be safe, valued
and most of all Loved.

Diane