firecat

So when I said "noone knows.." I wasn't talking about FA people, just the people I've talked to in every day life (mostly either pro-weight loss or vaguely pro-fat-acceptance but not actively identifying that way)

That makes sense.

I'm sorry that you haven't found the FA movement to be that space.

Well, I would say that some FA people and groups are accommodating of what I need and believe, and not others. My post about how there is no the community but multiple interacting communities was partly intended to soothe myself over a fear that I would get "kicked out of the movement" for being intolerant of pro-diet-weight-loss talk as part of FA. But I won't get kicked out because there's no the movement.

I get narky every time I see "healthy at every size" for example: I am unhealthy at every size!

"Healthy at every size" would bug me too, because to me "healthy" implies some kind of perfection, and certainly not everybody is perfectly healthy.

A phrase I'm more familiar with is "health at every size," and in my opinion it means "You can do things to benefit your health no matter what size you are." For decades doctors have been giving fat people the advice "All your health problems are because you're fat, and if you lose weight all your health problems will go away," and I think the phrase is meant to get people to question that.

I'd rather look for the FA parts of disability activism than the disability-friendly parts of fat activism.

That makes sense too.