Question that's been on my mind lately

[firecat]

Have there been periods of your life when you had no satisfying romantic/sexual relationships, or fewer than you wanted to have (if you're poly)?

How many such "dry" periods have you had in your life?

How long did each of them last?

Was anything in particular going on with you at the time that contributed to the circumstance, as far as you can tell? (Possibilities I can think of include being sick, being busy, moving to an uncongenial location, being socially inexperienced, experiencing a breakup, becoming more picky...etc.)

If this period ended, what circumstances contributed to its ending?

I'll say more about why I am asking this in a future entry.

Comments

[technomom]

I've only had one, at a time when my then-SO decided to be monogamous for a time with another woman he was dated who demanded it. I was very depressed at the time and, honestly, very needy. I met my third husband and another man within a week or two. Within 6 months the SO came back, as well, having decided that Ms. Monogamous wasn't The One.

After that marriage ended, I chose to put my self on a "relationship diet" for a year, as I realized that I had been moving from bad to worse due to my need to have an SO in my life. That was an extremely healthy and rewarding, but very difficult, thing for me to do. Since that time I haven't been alone, but I did fall into "settling" for less than I wanted or deserved with that same old SO again for a few years before meeting Sam.