Question that's been on my mind lately

[firecat]

Have there been periods of your life when you had no satisfying romantic/sexual relationships, or fewer than you wanted to have (if you're poly)?

How many such "dry" periods have you had in your life?

How long did each of them last?

Was anything in particular going on with you at the time that contributed to the circumstance, as far as you can tell? (Possibilities I can think of include being sick, being busy, moving to an uncongenial location, being socially inexperienced, experiencing a breakup, becoming more picky...etc.)

If this period ended, what circumstances contributed to its ending?

I'll say more about why I am asking this in a future entry.

Comments

[crazed-lynn.livejournal.com]

More dry than wet. (pun intended). I do live in a arid climate. (Couldn't resist that pun.)

Never, however, have I had as many Friends with Benefits as I want at any given time. Not even if I added them all up. And the family I have in mind is twice as big and more physically affectionate than the seven adults in my current family. My circumstances haven't been in my way at all. At least, I don't find any connections.

I'm slow to ask and slow to notice I'm being hit with a clue bat. And, even though I think about sex and sexuality all the time, it is more an intellectual exercise and a hazy fantasy than it's some concrete desire for sexual contact.

I also think about sex (not very interested) differently than physical intimacy (very interested). (I think that's way I miss the clue bats.)