Question that's been on my mind lately

[firecat]

Have there been periods of your life when you had no satisfying romantic/sexual relationships, or fewer than you wanted to have (if you're poly)?

How many such "dry" periods have you had in your life?

How long did each of them last?

Was anything in particular going on with you at the time that contributed to the circumstance, as far as you can tell? (Possibilities I can think of include being sick, being busy, moving to an uncongenial location, being socially inexperienced, experiencing a breakup, becoming more picky...etc.)

If this period ended, what circumstances contributed to its ending?

I'll say more about why I am asking this in a future entry.

Comments

[hobbitbabe.livejournal.com]

When I'm partnered, I look back and think how much of my life has been times I was in r'ships. And when I was single, I remember seeing myself as mostly single with a few interludes of r'ships.

At least 3 dry spells. The longest was about 5 years, the others about 2 years.

- After a difficult breakup.
- During my first permanent job, where I was in a new city and not meeting many people my age or stage of life.
- And most of the time I was in grad school, with a, um, subsistence TOCOTOX and no energy for anything more.