Question that's been on my mind lately

[firecat]

Have there been periods of your life when you had no satisfying romantic/sexual relationships, or fewer than you wanted to have (if you're poly)?

How many such "dry" periods have you had in your life?

How long did each of them last?

Was anything in particular going on with you at the time that contributed to the circumstance, as far as you can tell? (Possibilities I can think of include being sick, being busy, moving to an uncongenial location, being socially inexperienced, experiencing a breakup, becoming more picky...etc.)

If this period ended, what circumstances contributed to its ending?

I'll say more about why I am asking this in a future entry.

Comments

[lcohen]

i'm not sure how long my first dry spell, post high-school was--probably four years when all was said and done. it was the slow dying of one relationship and the aftermath and healing where i tried to get involved with people but had practically an aura of "Still Getting Over Bad Relationship" to drive people away.

since that first dry spell the only other dry spells were short--two and four months, post breakups until meeting new partners--i would say not due to anything unusual--just not having the right person come along. all of these periods, long and short ended when i met another person who interested me and who i interested. i was usually dating and meeting people and going out during these dry spells, just not clicking.