Question that's been on my mind lately

[firecat]

Have there been periods of your life when you had no satisfying romantic/sexual relationships, or fewer than you wanted to have (if you're poly)?

How many such "dry" periods have you had in your life?

How long did each of them last?

Was anything in particular going on with you at the time that contributed to the circumstance, as far as you can tell? (Possibilities I can think of include being sick, being busy, moving to an uncongenial location, being socially inexperienced, experiencing a breakup, becoming more picky...etc.)

If this period ended, what circumstances contributed to its ending?

I'll say more about why I am asking this in a future entry.

Comments

[johno.livejournal.com]

I've never sat down and counted months or analyzed why they happened. However, I see points made in several of the other replies that apply to me.

It has been very much feast or famine, with the feasts rolling out when I'm leaving area or after I entered a monogamous relationship.

The worst dry spell was when I got the "You're a good friend" speech exactly a year since my last sexual activity.

Dry spells are self perpetuating. The longer they go on, the less you feel you can break them. It takes a concerted effort to change yourself or one hell of a BIG clue-stick to get your attention.