Gendered language meme
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firecatThis is going around over on Facebook.
Meme: Pronoun/title/adjective check!
As in, "what I think of these pronouns/titles/adjectives as applied to me"
[Disclaimer: I don't expect anyone to remember all of this. A few of them matter to me more than others and I've starred ** them.]
It/its: No
She/her: Not my pronouns currently, but people who don't know me, or who knew me when I was younger, tend to assume they are. I flinch a little.
He/him: Not my pronouns, but they don't bother me.
**They/them: One of my preferred sets of pronouns
Neopronouns (post them): Zie or ze and zir are my other preferred pronouns, because I employed them in my Usenet haunts back in the day, and I feel nostalgic about them.
Mr: I dislike compulsory honorifics, but this is tied with Sir for second-least-disliked
**Mx: Of all the compulsory honorifics, I dislike this one the least. On forms where I can’t use this one, I may refuse to answer or pick at random or abandon the form.
Miss: Strongly disliked.
Ms/Ma'am: Disliked with fiery wrath, but I try not to set alight service people and waiters who don't know or aren't allowed to use non-gendered or nonbinary-gendered honorifics.
Sir: This is tied with Mr for second-least-disliked
Mistress: Maybe in role-play
Captain: Only in fun or role-play
Dr: I've been known to use it on forms, claiming to myself that I'm a doctor of gender studies because I've been forced to be. Apologies to people with actual PhDs.
**Pal, buddy, friend, comrade, folks, etc: Yes!!!
Dude, bro, bruh: I flinch over "dude," but not for a gender-based reason. At this time I don't know people who use bro and bruh.
Sis: No
Sib: If you're chosen family and you feel that way about our relationship.
Boi: Only if we're intimate I think. (I haven't had any intimate partners who wanted to call me that.)
Boy: No
Girl: No
Lady/ladies: Disliked with fiery wrath, etc.
Terms of Endearment (hon, sweetie, darling): Certainly!
“Feminine” compliments (pretty, beautiful, etc): Don't call me things like feminine, lady-like, womanly. Pretty and beautiful are OK.
“Masculine” compliments (handsome, etc): I'm fine with them.
Neutral compliments (cute, attractive, cool, etc): Fine with these too.
Meme: Pronoun/title/adjective check!
As in, "what I think of these pronouns/titles/adjectives as applied to me"
[Disclaimer: I don't expect anyone to remember all of this. A few of them matter to me more than others and I've starred ** them.]
It/its: No
She/her: Not my pronouns currently, but people who don't know me, or who knew me when I was younger, tend to assume they are. I flinch a little.
He/him: Not my pronouns, but they don't bother me.
**They/them: One of my preferred sets of pronouns
Neopronouns (post them): Zie or ze and zir are my other preferred pronouns, because I employed them in my Usenet haunts back in the day, and I feel nostalgic about them.
Mr: I dislike compulsory honorifics, but this is tied with Sir for second-least-disliked
**Mx: Of all the compulsory honorifics, I dislike this one the least. On forms where I can’t use this one, I may refuse to answer or pick at random or abandon the form.
Miss: Strongly disliked.
Ms/Ma'am: Disliked with fiery wrath, but I try not to set alight service people and waiters who don't know or aren't allowed to use non-gendered or nonbinary-gendered honorifics.
Sir: This is tied with Mr for second-least-disliked
Mistress: Maybe in role-play
Captain: Only in fun or role-play
Dr: I've been known to use it on forms, claiming to myself that I'm a doctor of gender studies because I've been forced to be. Apologies to people with actual PhDs.
**Pal, buddy, friend, comrade, folks, etc: Yes!!!
Dude, bro, bruh: I flinch over "dude," but not for a gender-based reason. At this time I don't know people who use bro and bruh.
Sis: No
Sib: If you're chosen family and you feel that way about our relationship.
Boi: Only if we're intimate I think. (I haven't had any intimate partners who wanted to call me that.)
Boy: No
Girl: No
Lady/ladies: Disliked with fiery wrath, etc.
Terms of Endearment (hon, sweetie, darling): Certainly!
“Feminine” compliments (pretty, beautiful, etc): Don't call me things like feminine, lady-like, womanly. Pretty and beautiful are OK.
“Masculine” compliments (handsome, etc): I'm fine with them.
Neutral compliments (cute, attractive, cool, etc): Fine with these too.
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