finding friends

[firecat]

inspired by snippy

for some folks, online friends don't fill the same social needs as in-person friends.

for those of you who have had difficulty at times making in-person friends, and have found ways to solve that problem, what worked for you?

Some things that have worked for me are

• inviting co-workers to a home-made dinner
  
• joining and organizing ongoing religious/spiritual groups (in my case, eclectic/women's spirituality/shamanic)
  
• participating in and organizing in-person meetings of people I knew from online forums
  

Things that seem to work for other people that don't usually work for me are

• parties
  
• bars
  
• volunteering (I love volunteering, but I haven't usually made friends that way)
  
• classes
  

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Things that have worked for me:

* Making an effort to meet my online friends in person
* Going to local gatherings of people who are interested in things I'm interested in
* Going to poetry readings and *reading*
* Taking classes (especially series of classes that some of the same people keep attending)

Things that seem to work for other people that don't usually work for me:

* Inviting co-workers over
* bars