Zen and the Art of Making a Living...

[firecat]

...didn't intend for "making beautiful / frivolous things" to be excluded from people's lists of what there needs to be more of in the world. I excluded it. I do enjoy a lot what I have chosen to do, but there is some other stuff I need to choose to do. Another part of the knot is that the kinds of caretaking I do come easy to me, and there's a part of my soul that is longing for more of a challenge, but I'm also terrified of it.

Comments

[firecat]

It is.

But it's not so much that I rely on other people for validation, as that they take up all my time.

[xp85goblin.livejournal.com]

That would be the single biggest reason why I would think twice about actively going Poly. Relationships are time suckers and there are other things I am interested in besides exotic sex and an active social life.

[firecat]

I was like this before I was actively poly.

I will figure out how to have time for myself and time to be with people I really want to be with.

[xp85goblin.livejournal.com]

It requires something like a planner, a good sense of priorities, and most of all the discipline to say "No" occasionally. It also takes the social skills not to perminantly offend the person you said "No" to, but that probably isnt an issue with you. Your social skills seem just fine.