The object of the social game

[firecat]

If you think the object of the social game is to "never bother anyone" or "have everyone like you," then for sure it isn't fair or winnable. Not by anyone. But if the object of the game is to "find a few people you get along with," then it's winnable because you don't end up losing if you happen to bother some people.

Another goal to play the social game for might be "Develop the ability to get along with more people." Yet another goal to play for might be "Understand all the ways people can be different, so that if someone gets bothered, you have a better idea of why."

So which goals are you playing for?

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The Social Game

[xp85goblin.livejournal.com]

I guess I socialize away from work for two reasons, the first is to try and meet people who are on the same wavelength as myself, and the other is to share some experience or creative endeavor that is impossible on one's own.
I have had both individual and group failures and I have come to write them off as a cost of doing business. I tried to learn from all those failures, if they had a lesson to teach beyond "You can't win 'em all".
I have come to appreciate time spent by myself as well. There is no politicking or conforming to do, which is nice. I can follow my own Muse and rythems without anyone else getting knotted. I think anyone who wishes any kind of social success also needs to cultivate appreciation for solitude, lest one become clinging and needy, thus driving people away.