posted as a comment in chubbychicks

[firecat]

Here is what works for me: it's not that my thoughts that I am ugly ever completely went away, but I have always fought back when those thoughts got into my head. I argue with them, and I surround myself with images of beautiful fat people and tell myself that if I think they are beautiful then it makes sense some people think I am beautiful. And I also try to treat myself the way I would treat a close friend. I wouldn't tell a close friend that they are ugly, so I shouldn't tell myself that I am. And if someone else tells a close friend that they are ugly, I would vehemently disagree.

Comments

[feline.livejournal.com]

I liked that statement. It's pretty much what I attempt to do as well. Besides, just because I don't agree with them, their opinions may be different. It is thier opinion afterall...

[tsamm.livejournal.com]

I think you make a very good point about not saying things to yourself that you wouldn't say to a close friend. It's sad that so many really great people are unforgiving and unkind only to themselves.