talking back to a knitting blog

[firecat]

Knitting Daily has had a new theme since the beginning of the year—Be a Fearless Knitter. I don't like this, and I was ignoring it and hoping it would go away, but after the third blog post on the subject, I talked back.

I really don't like this "fearless/fearful knitting" theme.

I feel like people, and women especially, pile too many "shoulds" on ourselves and spend too much of our lives feeling guilty and unworthy.

I gather that "Be a fearless knitter" is intended to end that. But I think it reinforces guilt. To me, "Be a fearless knitter" says "It's not good enough for you to enjoy a hobby. You have to turn it into a self-improvement project. You have to be constantly vigilant that you have goals that are challenging enough, and that you are working hard enough toward your goals." "Be a fearless knitter" is yet another way of telling myself I'm not doing "enough".

Affirmations work, but affirmations need to be stated in a positive manner. The word "fearless" focuses the mind on fear and is negative.

Let's say "I am a joyful knitter," "I love to knit," "I love to learn new knitting techniques," "I love to try new projects."

This is not intended to disparage people who find the theme useful.

Comments

[prairierabbit.livejournal.com]

For me "fearless" doesn't seem like something to aspire to, largely because I think many fears are useful, either because they point out real things to beware of (jumping off cliffs *is* risky!) or because they help me learn more about myself if I listen to them. (I'm afraid to take on a project because I'm already feeling overstressed would be an example of that, or I want/need to pay attention to other parts of my life.)

Hmmmm..... "Listen to your knitting" is perhaps what I'm going toward.

[firecat]

largely because I think many fears are useful

Yeah.

"Listen to your knitting" is perhaps what I'm going toward.

I like.