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I rarely mention in public how I'm feeling emotionally. (I'll talk about it with a few close friends, if they ask.) This goes not only for negative feelings but also positive ones.

I have a lot of reasons for not talking about negative feelings in public.

But here's what just percolated into my consciousness: I really only have one reason for not talking about positive ones. I believe that if I say "I'm feeling X" and then at some later point I'm not feeling X any more, people will judgementally think I'm foolish for having talked about feeling X in the first place, or possibly for having felt X at all.

I know where that belief came from. But you know, I think I don't really believe it any more.

Yay.

Date: 20 Mar 2008 10:28 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] brooksmoses
Yay, indeed! That's a good thing not to believe.

Date: 20 Mar 2008 10:39 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] snippy
Yay!

Date: 21 Mar 2008 12:03 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] wordweaverlynn.livejournal.com
Excellent!

And I hope you're feeling fine.

Date: 21 Mar 2008 12:48 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] serenejournal.livejournal.com
That's really great!

(I confess I'm sometimes embarrassed by the fact that the feelings (and thoughts and beliefs) that I post about often change by the time I read the post again, but hey, that appears to be the way I roll, so I'm just learning to live with it.)

Date: 21 Mar 2008 04:52 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tedesson.livejournal.com
One of the coolest things I learned from Buddhism was that feelings have no permanence other than the work you put into maintaining them. Quite freeing that.

Date: 21 Mar 2008 11:39 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dandelion-diva.livejournal.com
I don't know if it was internal or external, but I used to think that if I was/seemed happy (or even laughed about something) when I was depressed, everyone would think I was lying about depression. I don't remember when I started doing it, but I would take pains to tell people that just 'cause I was depressed didn't mean I couldn't feel other things as well. I still don't know if I was really talking to them or myself.

I'm so glad for you. :)

Date: 22 Mar 2008 04:07 am (UTC)

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