emotional observation
20 Mar 2008 03:25 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
I rarely mention in public how I'm feeling emotionally. (I'll talk about it with a few close friends, if they ask.) This goes not only for negative feelings but also positive ones.
I have a lot of reasons for not talking about negative feelings in public.
But here's what just percolated into my consciousness: I really only have one reason for not talking about positive ones. I believe that if I say "I'm feeling X" and then at some later point I'm not feeling X any more, people will judgementally think I'm foolish for having talked about feeling X in the first place, or possibly for having felt X at all.
I know where that belief came from. But you know, I think I don't really believe it any more.
Yay.
I have a lot of reasons for not talking about negative feelings in public.
But here's what just percolated into my consciousness: I really only have one reason for not talking about positive ones. I believe that if I say "I'm feeling X" and then at some later point I'm not feeling X any more, people will judgementally think I'm foolish for having talked about feeling X in the first place, or possibly for having felt X at all.
I know where that belief came from. But you know, I think I don't really believe it any more.
Yay.
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Date: 20 Mar 2008 10:28 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 20 Mar 2008 10:39 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 21 Mar 2008 12:03 am (UTC)And I hope you're feeling fine.
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Date: 21 Mar 2008 12:04 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 21 Mar 2008 12:48 am (UTC)(I confess I'm sometimes embarrassed by the fact that the feelings (and thoughts and beliefs) that I post about often change by the time I read the post again, but hey, that appears to be the way I roll, so I'm just learning to live with it.)
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Date: 21 Mar 2008 04:52 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 21 Mar 2008 07:39 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 21 Mar 2008 11:39 pm (UTC)I'm so glad for you. :)
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Date: 22 Mar 2008 04:07 am (UTC)no subject
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