Inquiring minds

[firecat]

via klwalton, an article called "Why Marriages Fail" (http://www.shrinktalk.net/archives/why_marriages_fail_1.phtml) contains the following quote:

couples that don't ever fight eventually don't have sex either. Why? They are both forms of passion. If you give up one form of intensity you'll ultimately leave the other as well.

Is this true in your experience?

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no fight, no sex

[pir-anha.livejournal.com]

well, we don't fight, and we don't have sex. those aren't related; we've got plenty of passion. we don't have sex because neitehr chronic depression nor meds fighting it seem to leave us with much of a sex drive. we don't fight because we don't believe it's the best way to deal with disagreements.

our relationship isn't a failure. sex didn't bring us together, and doesn't keep us together; it's not particularly relevant. it might be little-known secret for people who commit "shrinktalk", but sex isn't necessary for a great primary relationship.

fighting would probably tear us apart. i've fought with two partners in my life, with both of them the sex decreased as the fights took over, and eventually the fighting killed the relationship. i don't ever want to fight with a partner again.

the whole idea that fighting means passion is unadulterated bullshit, IMO. it just means one hasn't found more efficient and kinder ways to disagree. fighting does, in fact, strike me as the antithesis of intimacy. maybe with the exception of people who have hot make-up sex. there are none of those in canada. :)

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