Inquiring minds

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via klwalton, an article called "Why Marriages Fail" (http://www.shrinktalk.net/archives/why_marriages_fail_1.phtml) contains the following quote:

couples that don't ever fight eventually don't have sex either. Why? They are both forms of passion. If you give up one form of intensity you'll ultimately leave the other as well.

Is this true in your experience?

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[ljgeoff.livejournal.com]

Hm. By my definition, Mike and I have had about 3 or 4 fights in about 20 years of association. Much more frequently, we have discussions about our differences in opinion. I don't call these "fights" because we are rarely angry at each other, or angry at all -- we might be irritated, but it's rare for Mike and I to interact for fifteen minutes without at least one or the other laughing or smiling. On the other side of the equation, we have an awful lot of sex; long sessions, short sessions, sessions where we're both so tired that we hurry up to the finish, sessions where we can't stop giggling, and sessions that are so emotionally intense that we almost weep.

So my answer is, no, that's not true for us. Come to think of it, it wasn't true for me and Len, either. My first boyfriend and I used to fight, and the one just after that, too, but that mostly involved them screaming and me crying, so I don't know if you'd call that a fight, either.