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via klwalton, an article called "Why Marriages Fail" (http://www.shrinktalk.net/archives/why_marriages_fail_1.phtml) contains the following quote:

couples that don't ever fight eventually don't have sex either. Why? They are both forms of passion. If you give up one form of intensity you'll ultimately leave the other as well.

Is this true in your experience?

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A couple of people have already said similar things, but there's no harm in redundancy. In my experience, "not fighting" can mean that there's nothing the lovers disagree about at the moment or it can mean that one or both of them is so conflict-averse they will do just about anything to avoid difficult discussions for fear there might be anger or other scary feelings involved. But avoiding difficult or risky discussions (if there is something that needs to be discussed) means disengaging from one's partner, and that distance is likely to take the passion out of everything, including sex.

However, since my love-relationship life has been a long bumpy series of failures, growing more dismal as the years go on, I doubt that my opinion is valuable on this subject.