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firecatI am a fat person who finds many other fat people attractive. (In a non-exclusive way.) I'm delighted that I'm finding more and more places online (e.g., http://fuckyeahfatpositive.tumblr.com/) where I can just happily share my attraction with others. But I sometimes run into stuff online from people who don't share this attraction and assume finding fat people attractive (especially men finding fat women attractive) is inherently a skanky fetish.
This article about straight male fat admirers and women they are attracted to is written from an outsider's point of view, and if you can tolerate the fascinated gaze of the outsider, and some crassness ("'It’s like one big boob.' That’s Dan’s shorthand explanation for what it’s like to be with fat women"), it's reasonably respectful. Most of the photos actually include at least portions of heads and faces (instead of being headless fatties). Only two paragraphs are devoted to "OMG stigma and health risks."
http://www.villagevoice.com/2011-05-04/news/guys-who-like-fat-chicks/
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As of right now, the comments on the article are all positive, but of course, no guarantees it will stay that way.
On the same subject, I've always liked this bit of the old Usenet Size-Acceptance FAQ:
This article about straight male fat admirers and women they are attracted to is written from an outsider's point of view, and if you can tolerate the fascinated gaze of the outsider, and some crassness ("'It’s like one big boob.' That’s Dan’s shorthand explanation for what it’s like to be with fat women"), it's reasonably respectful. Most of the photos actually include at least portions of heads and faces (instead of being headless fatties). Only two paragraphs are devoted to "OMG stigma and health risks."
http://www.villagevoice.com/2011-05-04/news/guys-who-like-fat-chicks/
Excerpts:
The blog Ask a Guy Who Likes Fat Chicks began on a whim, with Dan posting during his border-crossing bus sojourns to visit his long-distance girlfriend of two years, the smoky-eyed French maid from Toronto. The phrase “Fat Chicks” was meant to be a reversal of the college-humor slogan “No Fat Chicks.”This bit is annoying because it's addressing the reader as an outsider. Personally, I don't look at young fat women and assume men aren't into them.
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Misconception #5: It’s easy to pick up a fat chick.
Lawrence shakes his head. “A big girl at a bar tends to feel like there must be some sort of joke going on,” he says. Partly because the double-chinned woman in the hip-hiding shrug is so used to being ignored; partly because the specter of “hogging,” the frat-boy prank practice of nailing a fat chick on a bromo dare, casts a pall even on innocent flirting. “It’s hard to be smooth when you’re trying to convince someone that you’re not playing a trick.” Lawrence says he’s only met women out successfully once or twice. “Generally speaking, the odds are very much against you.”
If you were at the Times Square Junior’s Cheesecake...and you happened to notice the 480-ish-pound woman in a thin cardigan, halter top, and Internet-purchased pants presiding over a plate of corned beef and pastrami on rye with steak fries (which she didn’t finish, but had wrapped), your first thought probably wasn’t, Wow, I bet lots of men are into her.But then there's this cute moment:
The evening ended in her hotel room, but strictly under conversational pretenses; tired, she sent him off. “He starts walking toward the door, and then he turns, and gets bright red and he’s like, ‘You don’t like me as anything more than friends, do you?’ And I just kind of looked at him. He was really serious. So I just yanked him over to me and kissed him.” Then she sent him away.Personally, I've done enough beta-testing of people who are bi-curious or fat-curious or poly-curious, so I probably won't be volunteering to help the men who say to Dan "I wanna see what it’s like to sleep with a 500-pound woman." Even though he thinks "half or more than half of our population [e.g., FAs] is dormant and nothing is being done with them."
As of right now, the comments on the article are all positive, but of course, no guarantees it will stay that way.
On the same subject, I've always liked this bit of the old Usenet Size-Acceptance FAQ:
In response to the accusation that people who are attracted to large
people have a "fetish":
"Many men are attracted only to women who weigh between 105 and
120 pounds. I, on the other hand, am attracted to women who
weigh between 150 and 500 pounds. Now you tell *me* who has a
'fetish'!"
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Date: 5 May 2011 02:44 am (UTC)Random comment!
Date: 6 May 2011 04:02 am (UTC)-Anthony
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Date: 6 May 2011 07:45 pm (UTC)I will take a closer look at these later, the FAQ looks especially good. Thank you for sharing them all in the first place.