Y'know...

[firecat]

...I never did consider words to be substitutes for actions, especially actions that are repeated over and over again.

Which means that the Nth time you cancel our date because you forgot, or overbooked, or decided something else matters more to you...

...your telling me that you really miss me and really want to spend more time with me isn't going to make much of an impression on me.

You can say that you made a mistake. You can say that you're sorry. You can say that you'll work out some other time for us to get together. But trying to make me feel sorry for you is a bad move.

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[nolly.livejournal.com]

And mine, for the most part, has entirely different causes, but yeah, more time alone than I usedta have. *hugs* offered, regardless.

[firecat]

I don't mind the time alone, personally. I just mind when someone expects me to believe/feel that words of affection can substitute for spending time together.

[nolly.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I know it's not the same situation at all, and I quite agree with you that words do not substitute for time, and that it scrapes when someone tries to make that substitution. I was kinda pinballing off the previous comment in another direction entirely, really. Anyway.

[firecat]

Yeah. *hugs*