Y'know...

[firecat]

...I never did consider words to be substitutes for actions, especially actions that are repeated over and over again.

Which means that the Nth time you cancel our date because you forgot, or overbooked, or decided something else matters more to you...

...your telling me that you really miss me and really want to spend more time with me isn't going to make much of an impression on me.

You can say that you made a mistake. You can say that you're sorry. You can say that you'll work out some other time for us to get together. But trying to make me feel sorry for you is a bad move.

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I "grrrr" on your behalf...

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BTDT, had that relationship (or something very like it)... after enough iterations of the "I'm so sorry! I really do value spending time with you, honestly!" dance, I also find that "pitiless" is a good descriptor of my mood. Along with "sharp-toothed".

Affectionate language is a fine and splendid thing. But it should be an adjuct to affectionate behaviour, not a substitute. After having played this game a few different ways now with various people, my tolerance for it is pretty minimal. So yeah, sing it sistah.

Nuke 'em from orbit. Only way to be sure.