Notes from the Field

[firecat]

Dan Savage writes:

The true measure of a man's love isn't that he doesn't desire others, PC, but that he doesn't act on his desire for others.

Euuuugh.

Comments

Re: waitaminnit

[janetmiles.livejournal.com]

It seems to me that the demonstration of love is specifically that the promise is being kept, regardless of whether it's a promise to (temporarily or permanently) not act on a desire for others, or a promise to clean the catbox every day.

If I were to rewrite the original quote in such a way that it made sense to me, it would probably be closer something like, "The true measure of a man's love isn't that he doesn't desire others, but that he doesn't act on that desire against his current partner['s|s'] wishes."

Re: waitaminnit

[lysana.livejournal.com]

I'm sufficiently cynical about Savage that I find myself wondering if he's hoping to bait some folks in the polyamory community (phrase used loosely) to pelt him with letters. He did it for a while with some underinformed remarks on bisexuality.

Re: waitaminnit

[firecat]

I wouldn't be surprised if he were. But I know a lot of people do really agree with that statement, and it was kind of squicky to be reminded just then.