info/research request - fat + poly positive groups

[firecat]

I'm running a Q&A entitled "Fat Positive and Poly Without Drama" at the NAAFA convention next week (August 10-14, near the SF airport).

One of the questions I promised to cover was "how to meet fat-positive poly people", and to that end I've been looking for mailing lists and LiveJournal communities for fat + poly people.

I've only found one (polypaganbbw, a yahoo group) - well, I found another one on Yahoo called bbw_polyamory, but you seem to have to be a member of the group to even look at the group's info page. The only LJ community I found that was even remotely associated was alternacurves, but that seems more associated with the alternative music scene than the alternative [*kof*] lifestyle scene. I've found fat + sex groups but that's not really what I'm looking for.

Of course I know that there are many fat-positive people in the poly communities at large, as well as many poly-positive people in the fat communities. So of course fat + poly groups aren't the only way to meet fat + poly-positive people.

But if you know of any such groups I'd be really grateful to hear about them!

Comments

[nellorat.livejournal.com]

I also think that a lot of fat poly people are fulfilling long-overdue needs to be seen as desirable--not in a bad, neurotic way, but just that the added complications of polyamory are even more worthwhile if you're using it to build damaged self-esteem as well as loving and enjoying love with other people. If anything, people who are still fulfilling these needs in our 20s and 30s etc. instead of as teenagers seem more responsible and level-headed about it. This certainly isn't the only pattern of motives, but I know it does go on.