Not having a good day

[firecat]

When I get stressed in certain ways then I start getting a zillion messages per minute running through my head, all of which have the words "YOU SHOULD" in them.

If this happens to you too, how do you turn it off?


(There's no emergency. I just want to fix a bunch of things that I am not in a position to fix, although I might be able to influence them.)

Comments

[owlectomy]

"That is a statement of practicality, not of morality" helps. (=As a practical matter I would be happier if my apartment was cleaner; my failure to have cleaned it this week does not make me a Bad Person. Etc.) But then, it most often happens to me when I start to treat matters that would be more practical or convenient for me as evidence that I am a Bad Person.

[firecat]

That's good. I've got the hang of that where it comes to cleaning and stuff (I switch "should" to "I want to...because...").