Vanna White is gesturing toward me

[firecat]

[recycled from fb]

It's coming out day again! I'll start with the LGBT stuff since that's what this day was created around:

I'm nonbinary (they/them or zie/zir pronouns) and transmasculine. I'm attracted to people of various (but not all) genders.

Other things I sometimes have to come out about: I'm fat, a fat activist, polyamorous, disabled, agnostic/pagan/buddhist, politically progressive

Now tell me about YOU.

Comments

[snippy]

To me it means my interest in other people is sometimes about sex, and sometimes about friendship, and sometimes about love, but very seldom about gazing into each other's eyes and holding hands, or going on a "date," or memorializing our relationship with flowers, or wanting those things from another person - or finding those things satisfying in some way. So I neither have a desire for romance nor do I find it rewarding.

[firecat]

I love gazing into each other’s eyes but don’t care about flowers and dates and anniversaries very much. I define romance as “a relationship that focuses on itself,” and I consider myself romantic because I like that element in a relationship. But maybe that is too idiosyncratic of a definition.