Anteing up on the Boobie project

[firecat]

I was intending to give this idea the attention I thought it deserved (none) but so many folks on my flist are talking about it that I feel pressured to put in two cents.

(See how easy it is for some people to feel social pressure? No one is even standing over me asking me to wear a button or asking to feel my boobs. People are just writing about it.)

So:

It's fun to break social rules when you're among friends and people you trust in a relatively safe space. Sounds like the original incident was like that, and that's great.

I object to the "Project" aspect of it. I don't want entire SF cons to become spaces where I feel pressured to walk around advertising my willingness, or lack thereof, to be felt up.

I have some more personal reactions that I may put into a flocked post.

Comments

[sistercoyote.livejournal.com]

I don't know if you've been back to Serene's post, but I've been heavily involved in the discussion there, and totally agree with you about social pressure. I've been accused of being puritan and a prude among other things.

So, uh, to finish my thought (much later), I'm wanting to withdraw my opinions and tell them they're all right.

[firecat]

Grr. Also ow.

[sistercoyote.livejournal.com]

So the grr is about the puritan/prude thing I'm guessing. I appreciate the sentiment, but in general that's one of the few "insults" I can shrug off thinking "if they really knew me..."

What's ow for, though. Wanting to recant because I feel out of place?

[firecat]

They're because I think the main people arguing with you in Serene's post were being thoughtless turds, toward you and in general ("well, just look elsewhere" especially annoyed me) and because feeling social pressure to pretend to believe something you don't (assuming that's what you meant by withdraw your opinions and tell them they're right) sucks.