Not having a good day

[firecat]

When I get stressed in certain ways then I start getting a zillion messages per minute running through my head, all of which have the words "YOU SHOULD" in them.

If this happens to you too, how do you turn it off?


(There's no emergency. I just want to fix a bunch of things that I am not in a position to fix, although I might be able to influence them.)

Comments

[firecat]

I have to give up that there is something wrong.

This really speaks to me and the situation that was causing shoulds yesterday. (Someone I love was suffering; there was nothing more I could do to help in that precise moment.)

I wish that "giving up that there is something wrong" worked permanently but it seems that for some things I have to give it up over and over again.

Nothng is ever handled

[outlier_lynn]

As much as I want to have everything settled and complete, it just does not seem to be in the nuture of life to be done with something. Giving up that something is wrong (or right, for that matter) just seems to be one of those things we are destined to do over and over.

I am pleased that I'm getting faster at noticing that I need to give up on some point of view.

That doesn't mean giving in to some circumstance, though. It just means that the way it is "right now" is the way it is right now. It is painful to be stewing about how something shouldn't be the way it is.

Re: Nothng is ever handled

[firecat]

I am pleased that I'm getting faster at noticing that I need to give up on some point of view.

That's a good trick to have in the bag, yeah!